Blogger's Block - My Excuse(?)

A year ago I read a post by Grechen on 'why she stopped reading fashion blogs'. Why not, it was all over twitter and the response was huge! Mostly because there were thousands of readers/bloggers out there who could relate to her reasons. Blogosphere was completely new to me then and may be that's why I couldn't understand 'why would someone get frustrated reading fashion blogs?! and why did she have to put up with those if she didn't like visiting those in the first place? They are just blogs where people post pictures of themselves looking pretty, wearing labels, mixing and matching their outfits as if it is rocket science, telling the world how lucky/busy they have been in life, where they spent their weekend, what their husbands presented them on their birthdays etc etc'. In short, blogs are so personal. Why and how would one be affected by someone else's lifestyle? I am glad that I kept my thoughts to myself and didn't comment or tell anybody.
Those were a lot of questions I asked myself while reading her post and almost had forgotten about it until recently.

I started my first blog because I liked the concept of creating my own space on the web. I knew the purpose of my blog and how I was going to portray it to the world. But then, there were thousands of other fashion blogs. Like any other amateur, I too did my homework to understand the dos and don'ts of blogging. I actually over did my homework. I blogged less and surfed more. I don't remember how many fashion blogs I stumble upon everyday! I don't even know what I am looking for on those sites. I just sit in front of this thing that strains the hell out of my eyes and browse for hours. Then, there are comments of new visitors who leave their links on your page and you visit them out of curiosity and to connect (may be?). However there are fashion bloggers whom I genuinely admire. For they are unique and I love their style and language. There is J, there is Kendi, our very own Sonu and Jasleen and the super cute Wendy and many others (too many to mention) who are so talented and keep me going back to their blogs every now and then. But there are also many other blogs that were in my reading list and facebook page that absolutely did nothing good. Instead, I was confused (like Grechen) and started comparing, questioning my content, my purpose or the fate of my blog! It is a CRIME against self to compare your blog with anybody else's. Though I am not in the number game, I couldn't help but look at their numbers (in multiple digits) and cringe a little inside. I am not even much of a promoter or have made many friends in this network so that explains my scores. But since when did this begin to bother me? 'They are giving more time and putting in much more efforts than I am so it's a fair game' I told myself and came out of that devil trap. I am SO glad that I did. Also, I am not a regular when it comes to outfit posts because I don't have a photographer!! Right, that's frustrating enough. As much as I appreciate/admire fashion bloggers who post regularly, I feel jealous. Jealousy is such a bad thing.. I'd rather be dead than be jealous. You know what I mean?

For some time, I think I had lost my individuality. I did not know what to post and when to post. I wanted to keep up with the frequency of other bloggers so, I used to post. Not because I enjoyed writing that piece. Since seeing pictures/reading other blogs used to consume most of my free time, I couldn't concentrate much on writing and I'd think in the direction of what I read. Most of the times after writing a post, I used to wonder 'has someone else written about it too? Have I read it some where before?'. There it was. Blogger's block! My nightmare!



I decided to help myself and removed a lot of these blogs from my list. I will do everything I can and not visit any blogs at least for a while. I want to give myself a break from all the torture. The blogs I love, will keep me hooked but as Grechen rightly said 'I’m not going to read blogs that don’t inspire me or make me smile'. 


How are you guys doing?  Do you still read a lot of fashion blogs? 

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How do you do it Man?  :-P

5 comments:

  1. I guess it happens to everyone.. I too took a break from blogging and reading blogs.. and now I am back with a fresh mind.. it really does help to take a break...

    Love
    Mehak
    www.thedoublemlife.blogspot.com

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  2. Shruti,

    Remember this is your space to write. So write what you wish to and as many times as you wish to without worrying what would the readers say. This space is to use your own creativity and satisfaction. So let it be so.

    Take care

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  3. I hear you..Though I am not a fashion blogger, I do follow quite a bit of fashion blogs..And when I say I know exactly what you are talking about..I mean it! After reading those blogs, I didn't take away much other than the fact that my wardrobe felt like nothing compared to theirs..And there I said it..Comparison is never a good thing..So decided to minimize the blogs I read regularly..:)

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  4. It's your space, not necessary that you have to follow each and everyone....a genuine reader will come back to your blog even if you don't visit their site...after all it's only genuine stuff everyone is interested in know?

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